There are major life changes that impact us so deeply we feel as though we might never recover. The death of a loved one, a cancer diagnosis, even the birth of a child: these changes strike into the very core of our being. We wonder if life will ever be the same again.
The answer is no. It will not.
I remember the birth of my first child. The pain was dreadful enough, but nothing compared to my confusion when they handed me my beautiful daughter and sent me home. I was baffled that responsible adults would send me home and expect that I could care for another person. Having just turned 18, I felt like I knew a lot, but this was too new and too difficult. I cried for the nurse to come home with me, and she laughed. Outside the hospital, life continued for everyone else. The world, for me, had been shaken to its very core. And while my life did continue, it was never the same again.
When America was attacked on September 11, I once again felt shaken to the depths of my being. I had only just come home from the hospital with another new baby. This one, however, was number seven, and I felt much more capable of ensuring her survival. Until the towers fell.
In that moment, I wondered if I could, indeed, ensure the survival of this helpless infant. I wondered if I could ever laugh again. I wondered if life would ever go on the way it had been.
The answer again, was no. Life changed for all of us on that day. Although we might not think about it every day, we have changed as a nation.
So too, the death of a loved one brings that sudden, soul searching query. Will things ever be the same? No. They will not.
When my sister died from cancer, I wondered how I could ever live without her. How could I go a single day not missing her? How could life go on?
Life does carry on, through the inevitable changes. We survive change. We grow from change. Although things are never the same as they once were, they do continue. Life continues.
The truth is that life goes on. Although it seems blithe and harsh in the midst of tragedy, it can also offer hope. Things will get better. The outlook will improve. Change will continue, and life will go on.
Change occurs, whether for better or worse. One moment you are up and the next you’re down. The key to life is to adapt to inevitable change. Don’t judge it as good or bad. Just realize that things change and deal with each in its own moment.
Weeping may endure for a night, as the bible says, but joy comes in the morning. Though you may feel overwrought by the changes in your life in this present moment, be assured that this too shall pass.
Nothing lasts forever. This is both the blessing and the curse of life. The joy and the pain will each pass away in due time. Whatever circumstance you find yourself, search deeply inside for contentment. That is the secret to true happiness.
Everything changes. It is up to you to determine how you will handle the tide when it turns.